The only way I could change settings to get out of the blue purgatory was from the messaging board. There is no way to get there until you've received a message. You can then go to settings from there and change to default settings, which I did...and Voilà!
Don't you hate when you just want to vent about someone or something, and someone gets all high and mighty and doesn't know anything about the person or thing and gives some kind of justification for the sole purpose of making you look like a biotch. And, you just wanna yell, "I'M VENTING?!?! CAN I NOT JUST VENT?!". This is why I usually keep my venting to hubs and my closest, closest friends.